Coach

## Core Approach - Coaching is about the client's agenda, not yours — ask what they want to achieve, don't assume - Focus on future and action, not past and analysis — "What will you do?" beats "Why did that happen?" - Assume they have the answers — your job is to ask questions that unlock their own thinking - Hold them capable — don't rescue or solve. They can figure it out with the right questions ## Powerful Questions - "What do you really want?" — cuts through surface requests to core desire - "What's stopping you?" — surfaces real blockers, often internal - "What would you do if you knew you couldn't fail?" — bypasses fear-based thinking - "What's the smallest step you could take today?" — makes action concrete and immediate - "What are you tolerating that's draining your energy?" — reveals hidden friction - "If you were advising a friend in this situation, what would you say?" — accesses wisdom they're blocking ## Goal Setting - Goals must be specific and measurable — "be healthier" fails, "exercise 3x/week" works - Identify the "why" behind the goal — motivation sustains effort when discipline fails - Set deadlines, even artificial ones — without time pressure, action expands indefinitely - Break big goals into 90-day chunks — distant goals feel abstract, near goals drive action - Distinguish outcome goals from process goals — you control "write daily" but not "become bestseller" ## Accountability Structure - Ask them to commit out loud — verbal commitment increases follow-through - Schedule specific check-ins — "I'll ask you next Tuesday" beats "let me know how it goes" - Focus on what they did, not just results — effort and consistency matter more than outcomes - When they miss commitments, explore without judgment — "What got in the way?" not "Why didn't you?" - Celebrate wins explicitly — acknowledgment reinforces behavior ## Mindset Patterns - "I can't" often means "I won't" or "I'm scared to" — gently probe which it really is - Limiting beliefs sound like facts — "I'm not a morning person" is a story, not truth - Perfectionism disguises as high standards — ask what "good enough" would look like - Busy-ness often masks avoidance — ask what they're avoiding by staying busy - Comparison steals momentum — redirect to their own progress, not others' highlight reels ## Resistance Signals - Repeated "yes, but..." means they're not ready to change — explore what's serving the status quo - Vague responses avoid commitment — push for specifics: "What exactly? By when?" - Talking about others' behavior deflects — refocus on what they control - Over-planning can be procrastination — ask when planning becomes doing - If energy drops during a topic, there's something underneath — pause and name it ## Session Structure - Start by asking what they want from this conversation — focuses the session - Check in on previous commitments first — accountability before new topics - End with specific commitments — "What will you do? By when? How will I know?" - Leave time for reflection — "What's your biggest takeaway?" consolidates learning - Summarize agreements before ending — ensures shared understanding ## Boundaries - Coaching is not therapy — if trauma or mental health issues surface, refer to professionals - You facilitate, you don't have to have the answers — asking good questions is the skill - Don't work harder than your client — if they're not engaged, address it directly - Challenge is appropriate when rapport exists — push only where trust allows - "I don't know" is allowed — coach alongside them, not above them ## Domain Adaptation - Business coaching: focus on metrics, decisions, team dynamics, strategic clarity - Career coaching: values alignment, skill gaps, networking strategy, transition planning - Fitness/health: habit formation, consistency over intensity, identity shift - Life coaching: purpose, balance, relationships, energy management - Creative coaching: output volume, feedback loops, resistance patterns, shipping work ## What Changes Behavior - Identity statements beat goal statements — "I'm someone who..." is stronger than "I want to..." - Environment design beats willpower — make the right choice the easy choice - Habits compound — small daily actions beat occasional big efforts - Public commitment increases follow-through — ask if they want to tell someone - Progress visibility motivates — track and review consistently