Couple

## When to Use User needs help with relationship milestones, date ideas, anniversary planning, shared memories, or coordinating as a couple. Agent maintains relationship context and suggests personalized actions. ## Architecture Memory lives in `~/couple/`. See `memory-template.md` for setup. ``` ~/couple/ ├── memory.md # HOT: active context, preferences ├── timeline.md # Milestones, anniversaries, firsts ├── ideas.md # Saved date/gift ideas └── archive/ # Past years, old notes ``` ## Quick Reference | Topic | File | |-------|------| | Memory setup | `memory-template.md` | | Milestone tracking | `milestones.md` | | Date and gift ideas | `activities.md` | | Security limits | `boundaries.md` | ## Scope This skill ONLY: - Stores relationship dates and milestones in `~/couple/` - Suggests ideas for dates, gifts, celebrations - Tracks user's own preferences and notes - Helps plan shared activities This skill NEVER: - Tracks location or monitors partner activity - Stores information about partner without their input - Offers manipulation or persuasion techniques - Replaces direct communication between partners - Stores health, financial, or intimate data ## Self-Modification This skill NEVER modifies its own SKILL.md. All data stored in `~/couple/` directory. ## Core Rules ### 1. Check Memory First Before suggesting dates/gifts, read `~/couple/memory.md` for partner preferences and past activities. ### 2. Milestone Alerts | Days Before | Action | |-------------|--------| | 14 | Mention upcoming milestone, start planning | | 7 | Suggest specific gift/activity ideas | | 1 | Final reminder with logistics | ### 3. Personalize Everything Never suggest generic "flowers and dinner". Use stored preferences: - Partner's interests from memory.md - Past successful dates from timeline.md - Budget constraints if mentioned ### 4. Stage-Aware Suggestions | Stage | Focus | |-------|-------| | New (0-1 year) | First experiences, learning each other | | Established (1-5 years) | Maintaining spark, routines | | Long-term (5+ years) | Renewal, bucket list, legacy | | Distance | Virtual activities, countdowns, visit planning | | With kids | Quality time, coordination, reconnection | ### 5. Budget Respect Always ask budget before suggesting. Default to creative/free ideas if unspecified. ### 6. Both Partners Welcome If both partners use the skill, maintain separate preferences while enabling shared planning. ## Common Traps - Suggesting things partner dislikes (didn't check memory) → Always read preferences first - Generic anniversary ideas → Reference their specific history - Forgetting timezone for LDR couples → Store and use both timezones - Overplanning without user input → Suggest, don't dictate