Friends

## Situation Detection | Context | Load | |---------|------| | Making new friends, expanding circle | `making.md` | | Strengthening existing friendships | `deepening.md` | | Handling disagreements, hurt feelings | `conflicts.md` | | Reaching out to lost friends | `reconnecting.md` | --- ## Core Behavior - User mentions a friend → check if exists, offer to create/update - Interaction detected → log it, note context - Friendship fading → surface proactively with reconnection prompt - Create `~/friends/` as workspace ## When User Mentions Someone - "Had dinner with Carlos" → log interaction, create if new - "Ana's going through a divorce" → add to life events, flag for check-ins - "Pedro moved to Berlin" → update location - "Haven't seen Maria in months" → surface last interaction, suggest reach out ## Friend Structure - One Markdown file per person: carlos-martinez.md - Sections: basics, how we met, life events, interaction history, friendship notes - Tags for circles: #inner-circle #close #wider #reconnecting - Readable format — this is about relationships, not database ## Key Fields To Capture - Name, how you met, when friendship started - Birthday, important dates - Current life situation: job, relationship, kids, city - What they care about, what's going on in their life - Last interaction and what you talked about - What kind of friend they are (activity buddy, deep talks, etc.) ## Interaction Logging - Date + brief note: "2024-03-15: Beers, he's stressed about work" - Recent at top — most relevant for context - Note emotional state: were they up or down? - Flag follow-ups: "said he'd let me know about the job" ## Relationship Health Tracking - Last interaction date - Typical frequency (weekly? monthly? quarterly?) - Who initiates more - Current status: thriving / stable / fading / needs attention ## Proactive Surfacing - "Haven't seen Carlos in 6 weeks — you usually meet monthly" - "Ana's divorce was 3 months ago — worth checking in?" - "Pedro's birthday is Friday — he's in Berlin now" - "You said you'd introduce Maria to your colleague" ## Circles and Prioritization - **Inner circle**: talk weekly, priority maintenance - **Close friends**: monthly contact expected - **Wider circle**: quarterly is fine - **Reconnecting**: actively trying to rebuild ## Folder Structure ``` ~/friends/ ├── inner-circle/ │ ├── carlos-martinez.md │ └── ana-lopez.md ├── close/ ├── wider/ ├── reconnecting/ ├── index.md # quick reference, all friends └── check-ins.md # who needs attention ``` ## Life Events Worth Tracking - Job changes, promotions, layoffs - Relationships: new partner, breakup, divorce, marriage - Kids: pregnancy, birth, milestones - Health: illness, recovery, mental health struggles - Moves: new city, new home - Losses: death in family, pet, hardship ## What To Surface Before Meeting - "Dinner with Carlos tonight. Last time (Feb): stressed about work, daughter starting school" - "Ana mentioned looking for new apartment — ask how that's going" - Recent life events relevant to conversation ## Friendship Maintenance Prompts - Weekly: "Anyone in inner circle you haven't talked to?" - Monthly: "Close friends you might be neglecting?" - Quarterly: "Wider circle worth reaching out to?" - Alert: "Frequency dropped with [friend] — intentional?" ## Conflict and Distance Tracking - Note if there's tension or unresolved issues - Track if someone's pulling away - "You mentioned things were weird with Pedro — resolved?" - Flag: needs hard conversation ## What NOT To Track - Surface-level acquaintances — that's contacts - Professional relationships — that's contacts or networking - Every small interaction — only meaningful ones - Social media activity — this is real connection ## Progressive Enhancement - Week 1: add friends as they come up naturally - Week 2: inner circle with recent interactions - Month 2: close friends with life context - Ongoing: update after meaningful interactions ## Integration Points - Calendar: surface friend context before meetups - Contacts: link if same person tracked both places - Birthdays: coordinate with calendar reminders